Last updated on January 12th, 2018 at 04:04 pm
ABC has a new show airing on Thursday nights featuring couples with real marital problems working through their issues.
Let me tell you a wee bit about ‘science’ behind the couple counselling offered on the program.
Four couples have committed to exposing their marital problems to us in our own living rooms.
This is exciting as one couple I saw who had seen the show said what a relief it was to know that others had experienced similar difficulties and issues in their relationships.
If you wish to learn more about the ‘science‘ behind the show, I would suggest you read any of Dr John Gottman’s books or visit his website the Gottman Institute. I have received trainings in this approach and from what I have watched is the evidence based practice for couples counselling they are using.
Dr Gottman has identified many of the predictors of divorce and we can see them in the conflicts within our couples. He calls these predictors the Four Horseman of the Apocalypse, criticism, defensiveness, contempt (mockery or sarcasm) and stone-walling. With awareness, acknowledgement and a lot of hard work these can be changed in your relationship.
I have written an article for my friend Clint Salter’s website please visit it and read the full version.
PS: I get a lot of you calling to say our relationship isn’t that bad we just have some communication issues – almost apologising for calling a psychologist. Internally I breathe a sigh of relief and say that it is great to come in early less to resolve.
So why wait until the engine won’t start if there’s a known problem in the engine?
Please call me now to talk about how we can begin making the changes now and experience the relief from taking action.
Best Wishes Philipa