Super excited fellow therapists, counselors and psychologists wanting to train in Harville Hendrix and Helen Lakelly-Hunt amazing therapy model Imago. Truly a blessing to be coaching clients to healing conversations for connections and healing.
We have Nedra Fetterman, Gene Shelly, Herb Tannebaum of the US, and Kobus Van der Merwe of the Imago Faculty. The Module 1 training will be two hours weekly online with a lecture then small group practice on April 26th, 10 am-12 pm Sydney local time.
Love to have you join us. Please drop me a comment if interested in learning more about this exciting new opportunity.
Super excited to share the amazing weekend couples intensive Getting the Love You Want Workshop is on and in person.
In lovely Crows Nest, there’s lots of great accommodation and mouth-watering restaurants if you want to make it an escape from the daily grind putting your relationship first.
Coming Soon April 2,3. Hurry to reserve your spot.
With a sense of sadness on this Valentine’s day, I wish to honor Brenda Rawlinson and her husband Peter Macmillan. Both dedicated advanced Imago couples therapists in their own right.
Chris and I first met Brenda and Peter at the Getting the Love You Want workshop in Lane Cove Sydney. This weekend’s couples workshops opened our eyes to what this relational therapy offers both personally and professionally. Peter and Brenda as husband and wife team lived this model of safe conversation, heartful joy, and growth toward deep connection. Their passion inspired us to complete the Clinical training they offered.
Brenda passed peacefully on Friday surrounded by love after a couple of years of dealing with a brain tumour and subsequent complications.
She will be mourned by many. Her legacy of love continues.
In an email, Peter shared their wedding vows and I respectfully share them here as a testament to their living them.
Brenda/Peter
I vow to love and cherish you always, to stand by you and support you, whatever life may bring.
I vow to respect you, to honour our differences, and to meet you with truth and passion.
I vow to recognize and support your soul’s journey in this life and to honour our relationship as a vehicle for healing and growth.
I vow to share with you the joy of our children, to be strong and loving with you in our parenting and to make our home a place of safety, nourishment, beauty and humour.
I vow to protect and grow our love in this sacred vessel our marriage.
Brenda/Peter, I love you and willingly embrace you as my wife/husband.
They truly say it all.
Loving and healing to all she touched, as Brenda’s light still shines bright.
It’s nice to have a special day dedicated to love. Not that you have to be in a relationship. In Chile, I believe this is actually a friendship day celebrating our pals.
Surprisingly I get a lot of people asking if I see individuals. Yes, I do! We use EMDR, Resource Therapy, and Imago processes for accelerated results. Whether your mate won’t come. Or you want to clear the path forward for yourself. Totally love coaching both men and women toward their dream version of themselves and ideal relationships. Inside and out. We deal with the past so our future is healed. Allowing us to stop painful patterns and start exciting new adventures.
Chris and I are off to a nice lunch by the seaside, we just love a beautiful Sydney view. What will you do either for you if you choose or your sweetheart?
Of course, there are always flowers – red roses and a card for the traditional. Perhaps you go skydiving together for an adrenalin rush. Maybe a surprise picnic at the office. In Sydney, it’s a Monday. Please drop a comment below how you plan to spend it, love to hear from you!
Hey there I have just finished another episode of the Resourceful Therapist which relates to couples. You will meet Julie and Will, advanced Imago Couples Therapists. Plus they are running their next Getting the Love You Want Workshop online Sept 24 Just click the link for details.
We are very lucky to have the next “Getting the Love You Want Workshop” Online.
This workshop is at the heart of Imago Therapy where connection and communication are key. Learn safe ways to heal and hear.
Our beautiful therapists bringing you this program are Will and Julie. Imago Therapists practice what we preach, it’s personal as well as professional.
Workshop presenter Will shares :
We all want to be connected and happy, and most of us are doing the best we can with what we know.
However, it seems we lack the map, the knowledge, and the skills to navigate the trickier waters of partnership.
We struggle with fear, with defensive strategies that have kept us ‘safe’ (better to be safe than sorry).
There’s a cost to this safety – we lose ourselves and our intimate partnership.
With better ways to love fully, we are no longer doomed to recreate the same hurtful patterns, and can end the suffering.
You will remember the GTLYW retreat as one of the best weekends you have ever had together and time well spent.
You will take away great skills, a new way of loving, and a whole new positive perspective on your relationship.
It is good to know we are not alone in this challenging endeavor called love.
So grab this opportunity now August 13th Start Getting the Love YOU Want!
NOW ONLINE
Couples Retreat with Julie Ayres-Cutler andWilliam Vorobioff
Fri evening 13 August: 7-9pm All Online in the comfort of your home.
Sat 14 August: 9am- 5pm with breaks in between, for lunch and refreshments
Sun 15 August: 9am- 5pm with breaks in between, for lunch and refreshments
Hurry now to register please click here or call Julie on 0422 955 414.
Some good has come as we adhere to the necessary restrictions. However, this can cause pressure in our partnerships. Tensions flare, arguments escalate.
I don’t know about you, but it can take me a while to address things in my relationship, often complaining and then taking action.
One of the key skills we use is the Imago Dialogue. Easily learnt, it offers you and your mate a deeper connection in emotional safety.
It’s in the doing that counts.
Here’s something you can do for your relationship today – The Getting the Love you Want workshop is now online August 13-15.
A weekend of healing from the comfort of your own home.
I have a quick video for you where I share one of our take-home tasks in couples therapy. It’s 3 minutes of positivity directed toward your partner.
This is so important, as we need to build up the emotional good will. Most of us focus on the problems. Which seems like the best thing to do and there definitely is a time and place for that.
Most of us need to regroup and remember the good things. Especially in this Covid world. Gratitude and acknowledgement supports our immune system. Plus it feels better ! So here is a quick guide to the three key skills of Imago – Mirroring, Validation and Empathising. With the daily positivity practice of three minutes a day and sharing that. Love to know how you go, please drop me note below.
My amazing friend and brilliant therapist Michele Weiner-Davis ( Yes a bit of hero worship here!) has brought us the Last Resort Technique (LRT). This is when your spouse says the dreaded “D” word, divorce.
Please visit the full article here. With over a thousand comment’s you get a lot of help and support. You are not alone. I always respond personally.
I see some common misapprehensions on the LRT. So I will put up a wee refresher here.
The three steps are
Stop Chasing.
Get a Life.
Wait.
And once you are working this then, how you might respond :
Be loving in return, but not overly excited or enthusiastic.
Accept some invitations to spend time together, but not all.
Accept all Family time invites. Your spouse seeing you having fun with your kids together reminds them of the value of family. You are a parent forever.
Do not ask any questions about your future together.
Be vague when asked questions about the changes in you. Say that you are just thinking things through. Live the shift.
Continue to be upbeat.
Do not say, “I love you.”
Resist getting in the conversation about your relationship.
Get a head start and beat your spouse to the punch when it comes time to leave or separate from each other at the end of an activity. You set the tone for going your separate ways.
As a rule of thumb, be responsive to your partner’s interest but not too responsive. Going overboard will lead your partner to get cold feet. Be warned.
So, stay interested, but cool in a self-possessed manner, (not icy though, as that will send mixed messages) until you are absolutely convinced that your partner’s renewed interest in saving your marriage has taken hold.
Good luck, dear hearts.
Know I am thinking of you all and wishing you well.
Now this topic can raise certain parts of us up in interesting ways, depending on our own early experiences. Are you a spendthrift? Or perhaps you live for today and forget to save for tomorrow. Exactly how did your parents handle money? Who was the decision maker or was it shared? Did they talk finances?
In my household it was very traditional. Dad was the breadwinner. Mum homemaker. And boy was my Dad controlling with the checkbook. Poor mum had to ask him to sign blank checks ( US spelling sorry) to buy the weekly grocery’s.
This was due to Dad’s lack of inner security, outdated and untrue beliefs about women and spending. Times have changed in their marriage. Mum is the one now holding all the ( credit) cards.
$ talking money, can be charged, yep I know bad pun. The way we get around this is with our Imago conversation. Want to see an actual couple session on this very topic?
Look here https://youtu.be/RNhwCIMPGoc Watch as Philip and Julia financial advisors deal with a their money blocks :
