It’s nearly Thanks Giving in America, what a lovely celebration. Happy Black Friday to all our U.S. friends!
Build a strong bond in your relationship to bridge your issues.
In Australia we can use this opportunity to notice what we are Thankful for.
Too many times Chris and I see couples fixated on the problems they’re having, to the exclusion of all the positives in their partnership. This causes more angst than peace and fuels many a fight.
Be a circuit breaker today in your relationship.
Stop for five minutes, take stock and do a quick relationship gratitude inventory:
What do I like about my partner?
How do they enhance my life?
How does he or she encourage my growth?
Think back to a time when you were both really happy and at peace, really step into that moment. Enjoy that sense of togetherness.
What in my heart of hearts am I grateful for in my relationship?
Your challenge is to share this lovingly with your spouse or partner. Notice what happens.
Please let me know how you go with this. Share below your experiences.
Over the weekend I saw The Intern with Robert De Niro and Anne Hathaway starring. ( Spoiler alert I am going to give some things away!)
Anne’s character is a very busy productive woman who has started a very successful internet company, and reluctantly she takes on Robert De Niro as her intern. Well he wins her over of course with his usual charm!
Sadly Robert’s character sees Anne’s screen husband cheating with another school mum. A tad cliche I know. He doesn’t share this until she blurts out her concerns on a business trip. She has known for a while but has hoped it will all go away or ‘he would get it out of his system’.
The ostrich approach rarely works.
The husband’s screen presence is that of a nice guy who has strayed out of his marriage feeling lonely in his chosen role as primary caregiver to their daughter. He comes to his own truth about what is important to him and he decides it is his wife, her having her career and him learning about what led him to step outside of his marriage and breach their marriage vows.
In the best affair apology scene ever ( please feel free to share if you have others you recommend) he confronts the situation head on.
He goes to her work and fesses up. He takes full responsibility for his actionsand choices ( Note he does not blame her, her work, or the lack of time, sex or intimacy). He acknowledges the impact of his unfaithfulness on her and their marriage ( owns the consequences) and commits to change for the future of their partnership by doing what it takes to achieve a new strength in their marriage to repair this marital crisis.
I urge anyone interested in recovering from the effects and impacts of infidelity to watch this, I am sorry it may be painful and sad especially if you are newly aware. Healing can happen with help. And please tell me your memorable moments from the silver screen that have helped you. Look forward to your comments.
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