Happy December! Monthly Challenge -You Year Review.

Welcome to the month of December. I am a bit late guys sorry. I’ve been under the weather, doing renovations and the Christmas counselling rush which started in November is on.

Christmas time is family time.

December is the month which ushers us into the new year. Loving the ring of 2020, a new decade. This month is an ending of our 12. A good time to do a review.

Looking back in the mirror, how did you do?

  • What goals did you make?
  • What did you start?
  • What did you finish?
  • How is your health?
  • How is your relationship tracking?
  • What are your most proud of?
  • What are you least proud of?
  • How can you use the above to inspire yourself and take action/
Useful to reflect on things

This years goals for me were pretty huge. Chris and I bought an apartment. I started renovations and my goodness I hope they finish soon.

What keeps you on your perch?
What keeps you on your perch?

Health wise walking and dancing are a great thing. I am working on using mother natures guide bypassing intellect and using instinct to eat what my body tells me. Living food like carrots as opposed to chips.

My marriage has had trials with the property search that started in May. This and financial togetherness, organising a project brings out the best parts and occasionally cranky parts.

The loss of Taneisha has brought us closer. Watch this space as Yoda arrives for xmas.

Least proud of yelling at Chris, when I was tired and overwrought.

Useful to reflect on things Not me, but a cranky part is in the house

Proud of managing so many things. Buying and selling properties all in the last six weeks. It’s been a blitz.

Running Resource Therapy workshops and building them for next year in Bali in July. Overseas training is a huge undertaking.

Love to hear your lists and thoughts. So make this monthly challenge a review from the above. Remember it is more powerful putting pen to paper.

Please drop a line in the comments box and let us know xx Thanks for reading.

Yours in gratitude Philipa

What's decorating your life as you review the year?
What’s decorating your life as you review the year?

Shine Brightly for August!

Hello all, I have just popped up the Youtube monthly challenge where I have hoping to inspire your brilliance.

Shine your bright light of love as a beacon to others and to yourself. Like attracts like. Notice what happens as a result.

let your star shoot forth !purple-690724_1920
let your star shoot forth

So the monthly challenge is to put yourself in the spotlight and illuminate the world.

I want to share with you the cutest story. Oliver Jeffers Heart in the Bottle makes me cry. So beautiful. Here it is:

Getting the Love You Want – Couples Workshop

I have just spent the last 3 days with my husband Chris attending a Character growth Imago workshop. This was with Advanced Imago Therapist Brenda Rawlings of The Imago Institute of New Zealand See here https://www.relationships.co.nz/about-us/

Now we are in luck Sydney folk!

The Couples Retreat – a 2 day weekend is here! Brenda and husband Peter are offering the Getting the Love You Want Couples workshop. Up the road in lovely Crows Nest.

Here is the link to https://www.relationships.co.nz/couples-workshop-dates-fees/ to secure your spot.

We can definitely recommend this workshop. Indeed it saved us from the brink. Please do yourself a favour and get the love you want. Your partnership is worth putting in a 2 days effort !

Happy Bastille Day to our French Friends!

Bonjour et bien venue. Today Chris and I went to the Sydney suburb of La Perouse. La Perouse was a famous French explorer who landed in this area of Australia. there were celebrations and the tricolour flew in the icy winds.

The refrain Egalite, Liberte et Fraternite may be useful in our relationships.

What would our partnership be with equity, freedom and loving. Pretty yummy. Lucky I bought Chris an almond croissant. I know he loves them. I hope you had a happy day. xx

Thoughts on Why Millenials are Cheating Less…

Last updated on June 1st, 2019 at 04:54 pm

Have you ever wondered about Generation Y? What is happening to those of us born into into the 1990’s ? How are their relationships faring in the today’s turmoil?

That’s exactly what my journalist friend Natalie Reilly was pondering. She has discovered they are rejecting the sexual revolution’s children’s values ( their parents!) in favour of old fashioned morals. Especially when it comes to infidelity and divorce.

That's exactly what my journalist friend Natalie Reilly was pondering. She has discovered they are rejecting the sexual revolution's children's values in favour of old fashioned morals. Especially when it comes to infidelity and divorce.
80’s and 90’s kids are making careful selections and sticking with their mates.

Millenials don’t appear to be following in the footsteps of their forebears. They are staying together and working on themselves and their partnerships. They are rejecting divorce.

Here is the article from the Sydney Morning Herald with my views on why this is occurring in marriage land. https://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life-and-relationships/rejecting-our-forebears-values-why-millennials-are-cheating-less-20190509-p51lmj.html

Many of my clients have witnessed the destruction of marriage first hand. They want to avoid the despair of separation at all costs.

This doesn’t mean they will put up and shut up about unhelpful behaviours though. They are active participants in their partnerships.

In my experience they come my therapy office with the attitude of “this isn’t working , what can we do to improve…” They are in the best possible head space. Recognition increases the likelihood of great results. A can do attitude makes them Olympian relay teammates. And let’s face it you want to have your mate who’s prepared to run the lifetime marathon race with you. Ideal in long term partnerships and lengthy marriages.

Could Millenials be responsible for a change and downturn in the divorce statistics? Time will tell and I’ll be writing more soon!

Love to hear from Millenials and all gen’s – please write a comment below. Please share via text email and social media for those this might help – especially if they are going through a trial in their connection. It’s Work that Makes Marriages and Relationship Work! All we need is to bring a smile and our joy to that toil 🙂

Thanks for reading! Yours in Love and Relationship Success xox Philipa

How to deal with the “I Love You’s” whilst applying the Last Resort Technique

Last updated on April 4th, 2019 at 05:22 pm

I have had this very question a lot. So I have recorded a video here for all you LRTer’s. This is especially for those of you who are experiencing the distress of separation and want to make a good go at repair.

Phillipa’s advice on the LRT.

Please like, comment and share if you think this could benefit a friend in need.

Me in person saying gidday!

Hi there, I am working on getting myself out to you! Here is the latest video from my YOUtube Channel

Coming to you from my office in Randwick Sydney.

Apologies for not being able to look you in the eye, still figuring out this whole videoing self thing! Appreciate your kindness there. xx

Happy New Year from Marriage Works! Bonus gift wish list just for you.

Welcome to the New Year, already a few days in and I am still in holiday mode, so have been relaxing and enjoying a rest. I do hope you and your loved ones are recharging.

Dolphins are good at celebrating life
Dolphins are good at celebrating life.

Its got a revitalizing feel to it 2019. I am still formulating this years plan. It will include taking Resource Therapy to London, England, a wedding in Suffolk and our annual trip to Bali. Yay!

So excited, we have booked our tickets back to New Zealand, for my Aunt Judy and Uncle Robin’s 50th wedding anniversary their golden anniversary. They are babies though in the longevity stakes – My Aunty Faye and Carl are the leaders coming in for their diamond jubilee – 60th wedding anniversary. Diamonds come from the Greek word adamas which means unconquerable and enduring. So right on all counts.

60th Wedding Anniversary the Diamond. Well done Aunty Faye and Carl!!
60th Wedding Anniversary the Diamond. Well done Aunty Faye and Carl!!

Longevity in relationships does matter. It’s no wonder I came up with the name marriage works. Both Chris and I come from a long line of stayers in that department. And why we want to help others in their relationship dilemma’s.

We had a beautiful relaxed New Years eve enjoying the company of good friends old and new. Watching the glorious Sydney harbor fireworks display come midnight. There was champagne, a small feast and dancing!

Sydney city fireworks are a tremendous display heralding the start to the new year 2019!

We hope you had a lovely start to the year. It felt special as our first Christmas as husband and wife. Sending all those first Christmas holiday season mothers, fathers and spouses my very best wishes. Super special!

baby-1249613_1920 Babies first new year, wonderful for new mums and dads everywhere.
To all the first year mums and dads a big smile!

Thanks ever so much to all our clients and supporters of Marriage Works in 2018. We really appreciate you and love hearing from you. Blessings and wishing you an awe inspiring start to 2019.

Here is your wish list gift from us to you:

Yours in gratitude- Philipa xox