I have just spent the last 3 days with my husband Chris attending a Character growth Imago workshop. This was with Advanced Imago Therapist Brenda Rawlings of The Imago Institute of New Zealand See here https://www.relationships.co.nz/about-us/
Now we are in luck Sydney folk!
The Couples Retreat – a 2 day weekend is here! Brenda and husband Peter are offering the Getting the Love You Want Couples workshop. Up the road in lovely Crows Nest.
We can definitely recommend this workshop. Indeed it saved us from the brink. Please do yourself a favour and get the love you want. Your partnership is worth putting in a 2 days effort !
Bonjour et bien venue. Today Chris and I went to the Sydney suburb of La Perouse. La Perouse was a famous French explorer who landed in this area of Australia. there were celebrations and the tricolour flew in the icy winds.
The refrain Egalite, Liberte et Fraternite may be useful in our relationships.
What would our partnership be with equity, freedom and loving. Pretty yummy. Lucky I bought Chris an almond croissant. I know he loves them. I hope you had a happy day. xx
Have you ever wondered about Generation Y? What is happening to those of us born into into the 1990’s ? How are their relationships faring in the today’s turmoil?
That’s exactly what my journalist friend Natalie Reilly was pondering. She has discovered they are rejecting the sexual revolution’s children’s values ( their parents!) in favour of old fashioned morals. Especially when it comes to infidelity and divorce.
80’s and 90’s kids are making careful selections and sticking with their mates.
Millenials don’t appear to be following in the footsteps of their forebears. They are staying together and working on themselves and their partnerships. They are rejecting divorce.
Many of my clients have witnessed the destruction of marriage first hand. They want to avoid the despair of separation at all costs.
This doesn’t mean they will put up and shut up about unhelpful behaviours though. They are active participants in their partnerships.
In my experience they come my therapy office with the attitude of “this isn’t working , what can we do to improve…” They are in the best possible head space. Recognition increases the likelihood of great results. A can do attitude makes them Olympian relay teammates. And let’s face it you want to have your mate who’s prepared to run the lifetime marathon race with you. Ideal in long term partnerships and lengthy marriages.
Could Millenials be responsible for a change and downturn in the divorce statistics? Time will tell and I’ll be writing more soon!
Love to hear from Millenials and all gen’s – please write a comment below. Please share via text email and social media for those this might help – especially if they are going through a trial in their connection. It’s Work that Makes Marriages and Relationship Work! All we need is to bring a smile and our joy to that toil 🙂
Thanks for reading! Yours in Love and Relationship Success xox Philipa
I have had this very question a lot. So I have recorded a video here for all you LRTer’s. This is especially for those of you who are experiencing the distress of separation and want to make a good go at repair.
Phillipa’s advice on the LRT.
Please like, comment and share if you think this could benefit a friend in need.
Welcome to the New Year, already a few days in and I am still in holiday mode, so have been relaxing and enjoying a rest. I do hope you and your loved ones are recharging.
Dolphins are good at celebrating life.
Its got a revitalizing feel to it 2019. I am still formulating this years plan. It will include taking Resource Therapy to London, England, a wedding in Suffolk and our annual trip to Bali. Yay!
So excited, we have booked our tickets back to New Zealand, for my Aunt Judy and Uncle Robin’s 50th wedding anniversary their golden anniversary. They are babies though in the longevity stakes – My Aunty Faye and Carl are the leaders coming in for their diamond jubilee – 60th wedding anniversary. Diamonds come from the Greek word adamas which means unconquerable and enduring. So right on all counts.
60th Wedding Anniversary the Diamond. Well done Aunty Faye and Carl!!
Longevity in relationships does matter. It’s no wonder I came up with the name marriage works. Both Chris and I come from a long line of stayers in that department. And why we want to help others in their relationship dilemma’s.
We had a beautiful relaxed New Years eve enjoying the company of good friends old and new. Watching the glorious Sydney harbor fireworks display come midnight. There was champagne, a small feast and dancing!
We hope you had a lovely start to the year. It felt special as our first Christmas as husband and wife. Sending all those first Christmas holiday season mothers, fathers and spouses my very best wishes. Super special!
To all the first year mums and dads a big smile!
Thanks ever so much to all our clients and supporters of Marriage Works in 2018. We really appreciate you and love hearing from you. Blessings and wishing you an awe inspiring start to 2019.
I want to share something personal – this is a huge thing for me to put on the website being a very private person. Yet I am a great believer in being real and honest. Chris and I went through some tough times earlier this year. We had come to a place of separation.
It was over as we were wanting different things from the relationship.
Marriage
I am traditional and believe in the institution of Marriage – hence the name Marriage Works – right! Of course you can be totally committed partners without it. I am no Marriagist. Chris having been divorced was not bothered by matrimony.
I am glad to say we did work things through and are happily back together in a more powerful and deeper connection than ever.
Plus we got married on November 3rd 2018, a happy day all round!
The Bride and Groom – Chris and Philipa got hitched!
What helped was us going and seeing a couple therapist and working through our sticking points. Being a client and learning about myself has always improved my therapy game. I could not believe how anxious I was going to every appointment. I definitely have a bucket load more compassion having had the counseling experience. Our good therapist really turned things around. Thank you!
Brenda and Peter hold these workshops in Sydney, Melbourne and Auckland New Zealand. In the weekend we learnt so much about each other and it offered us a way forward in hope with our love.
I am passionate about couples learning to connect and heal this can happen in the therapy room. The bonus is you get to take the learning and techniques into your life.
Look up and see the light and move away from misery and pain
Using it as a therapy tool I have seen partner’s change in 90 minutes as they see and get their spouses angst in a hearfelt way. It’s different to the old ways of communicating which lead to hopelessness and desperation.
I recommend it to all my couples and friends! It is coming very soon 8/9 December so give your self the best gift every – a healthier, happier relationship for the two of you.
Hi all you wonderful people who take the time to read and write in to me here at Marriage Works!
I have the good fortune to be in Boulder, Colorado at the Michele Weiner-Davis Behind Closed Doors training. Every morning I get up to look at the amazing Flat Irons at Chataqua Park, yes I climbed up them a little the altitude up here is 5,500 feet. The air is thin and it is hot.
What a place to have training in couple therapy up near nature of the Flat Irons Chataqua Park, Boulder, Colorado
Now back to Michele’s training – she is so generous and super talented in sharing her divorce busting techniques with a fabulous group of wonderful therapists. I am enjoying meeting these committed couple therapy warriors who help couples to gain change. They are so friendly to this Kiwi who has come from Sydney Australia! Thank you all!
Behind Closed Doors with Michele Weiner Davis, learning from the Divorce Buster Superstar!
It’s good to be reminded of brief solution focussed therapy and access Michele’s updated version. She is a wonder worker and her passion shines forth. I can’t wait to take this back to my couples and work with the folks who see me!
How lucky I am and grateful to Michele for sharing so powerfully of herself and her clinical skills. And thanks to Jim her husband too! So Jet lagged.
Sadly today is the last day of the powerful training. I have had a blast and feel so warmly welcomed in the US. Perhaps Michele has saved the juiciest bit till last as our final day is working on the Sex Starved Marriage. Based on her wonderful book of the same title-find the Sex Starved Marriage by Michele Weiner Davis here.
Thank you Michele, Jim and all the workshop participants for a wonderful adventure in learning.
In Australia we are approaching Easter, a significant religious holiday for many. While I am do not belong to any church custom, I do a respect folks observances and their special traditions associated with this holy time.
When we were kids in New Zealand our TV stations played the Biblical hits. Truly this was this (with the greatest respect) where I received my religious education.
Watching Charlton Heston part the Red Sea in the 1956 tribute The Ten Commandments, was awe inspiring and still is.
Charlton Heston with Ronald Reagan. Mr Heston played a great Moses, I look forward to seeing him again.
I will be getting the DVD down from the shelves. Yes I own it.
Despite not coming from a Christian background I do believe the Ten Commandments are a useful guide to live by.
Easter isn’t just about eggs and chocolates. Yes I do indulge in the brown delicious sweet!
Easter eggs are a fun and yummy chocolate treat.
I like to use it a a time for reflection.
It is a time where I am not working. What has passed in my life, people, habits or old beliefs? The death of things that not longer support me or help me grow. These can be a simple as changing an exercise routine.
It is an opportunity to bring about change with the ‘rising’. I ask how can I encourage and support myself and others to be their greatness? What works do I need to achieve in my mission of service?
How would you apply this to your relationship?
What do you need to do inspire for your partner? Is there anything you can do to enliven your partnership? Put some thought into it. Love to hear what you came up with and how it helped. Pop a comment in the box below.
